Totally Laime, Totally Married and Totally Mommy are the podcast brainchildren of comedy person Elizabeth Laime. Totally Laime is about asking the most important people in comedy the least important questions, Totally Married chronicles Elizabeth and her husband Andy's adventures in marriage (plus unqualified advice to listener questions!) and Totally Mommy is an honest discussion about Motherhood between newly-mommied Elizabeth and her talented parent friends. Enjoy!
In our childbirth class this weekend, our fantastic teacher, Kathy Killebrew, posed the question: what does postpartum mean to you? Of course all of us were thinking of the big D word: Depression. Because I’ve struggled on and off with the ole’ regular kind of depression for 15 years, I am a little scared that I might be dealing with the mommy version within the next few months. The flip side is that I also feel like because I’m very aware of this possibility I am more prepared take steps to treat it head on.
But I was surprised when our teacher said, “I know everyone here is thinking of depression, because that’s what our culture says postpartum is.” She went on to explain that while it’s important to be aware of depression symptoms , what postpartum actually is, is just a period of time – 6 weeks – after your baby is born. This is meant to be a time of hunkering down and feeding and bonding with your wee one. In other cultures, women look forward to postpartum for most of their lives because it is a time when they are waited on hand and foot while they have the space to connect and love on their lil nugget. Sounds good to moi!
I love this new take on postpartum. While it’s super important to have an open dialogue about potential depression and the challenges that come with a new baby – lack of sleep, feeling overwhelmed, hormones going cray cray – I have found that I’ve been inundated with these warnings, sometimes even bordering on threats it seems, while I have yet to hear anyone give me a truly clear understanding of what this time really like – and I’d like to know all of it! The good, the bad, and the funny!
Then, last week I received an email from my friend – actress and improvisor Katie Schorr, who just had an adorable lil guy named Sly:
Actress and Doula/Childbirth educator SHELLY SLOCUM is our cohost today, here to discuss how labor is a perfect microcosm of motherhood! Also, The Good: (Watching her two girls develop such different personalities, Elizabeth getting an education in carseats and feeling like a good mom) The Bad: (Sometimes not wanting to be a mom) and The Funny: (Shelly’s daughter making her laugh over a bag of freeze dried strawberries, Elizabeth’s baby gift from Shelly). Then they give their unqualified advice to listener questions regarding balancing two kids instead of one and how to decide whether or not to find out the sex of your future child! Enjoy!
Elizabeth discusses her recent revelation about a little substance that she is clearly addicted to (and it’s not even chocolate!) before she and Andy give their unqualified advice to listener questions regarding differences in a marriage regarding the desire for children, how to get your partner to give more positive feedback between the sheets, whether or not to call a friend out on being a constant spoil sport, whether or not to live with another couple, how to deal with a nightmare Step Mom who constantly guilts you, and a cliffhanger of a question which will be addressed in the next episode – you’re not going to want to miss it. Enjoy!
Our dear friend, comedian, producer, and writer – the talented/hilarious PETE KARINEN came back on and discusses his recent epic road trip, why he has two regrets that involve weddings, the exact moment in college when he decided to stop being a meanie and why Garden State is sitting right next to Margot At The Wedding in his book. He also creates a lot of phlegm in Elizabeth. A lot. Enjoy!
Leelee is back co-hosting this week (yay!) and shares The Good (her lil man turned 1! And Elizabeth had an awesome baby shower), The Bad (Leelee’s daughter has been out of sorts, Elizabeth’s vulva is no beuno) and The Funny (Leelee’s husband had a colorful description of their daughter’s behavior, Elizabeth needed snack time during a rock show). Then Leelee has some awesome advice (Elizabeth’s is mediocre at best to listener questions regarding gender disappointment in pregnancy, dealing with sticky Mother In Law situations, how to handle a “gun situation” with the in laws, and what to do when one child resents the other for the amount of attention he requires. Enjoy!