K-Cup w/ Dr. Ro Ro!
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Totally Married Podcast
Episode 164
Elizabeth and Andy discuss their recent Chipotle (mis)adventures before doling out their highly unqualified advice to listener questions about inviting an unwelcome guest to a bachelorette party, how to form meaningful friendships in your early twenties, what to do about a marriage that in’t fulfilling and leans towards toxicity/indifference, whether or not to make a big bold move to NYC even without a job lined up, how to handle a horrible situation of being hit on by a friend’s husband, and what’s the deal with guys simply vanishing out of thin air after dating for a while? Enjoy!
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I’d listen to Andy’s stupid K-cup podcast.
It would be pretty great if Andy had coffee snobs on who just try not to hurt his feelings for 15 mins.
If Scott Aukerman can have “Analyze Phish” AND “You Talkin’ U2 to Me?”, then Andy should definitely be able to do “Totally Keurig.”
Agreed. I’d subscribe.
I love this idea. Please Andy, we need this!!
Long time first time here. I have a hard time imagining Andy being ‘ice cold’ to anyone!
And also, yeah, I too would listen to Andy talk about his Keurig adventures.
Oh crap. and it shows that this is my first time commenting here, as I did it wrong. Whoops.
Please please please God, let this happen
Andy should just live his passion and have a general beverage podcast called “Drinkin’ with Andy”. I’m only half joking; I’d absolutely listen to this.
I just came here to say exactly this, though I like Richard’s idea of having coffee snobs on the air with him. But Andy’s quest for the perfect beverage would be fantastic.
Agree, a beverage podcast would be a great way to channel Andy’s thoughts on drinks to a more appropriate venue. And I’d totally listen
maybe you’d get free k-cups if Keurig sponsored?
I have to say, I agree with Andy. Pursuing and ignoring is a very… guy tactic. I don’t know if I know any women who have done it.
It may not be anything personal, sometimes people just aren’t mindful of others. It’s something like “playing the field” or “seeing what’s biting”.
To me, it’s always been frustrating. I’d rather just have someone say it to my face… but people are more likely to avoid you if you can.
Chances are, they ignore you because they’re afraid of confrontation… and honestly, you’re better off because it means that their go-to when things get bad is to avoid it. Not great boyfriend material.
My recommendation would either be online dating where people are actually looking for a relationship, or to notice the signs.
The biggest red flag is that they won’t give you a definite answer when you try to set up a date.
If you go on a date, and you think you’re hitting it off, try to schedule a date. If they’re wishy washy or say they’re busy and give no definites… they’re yanking your chain.
If they say that they’re busy, but they try to schedule a coffee date or something simple like that, then they are interested, just busy, or they’re tentative.
Sad to say, but 20 year olds are usually looking for the next best thing. No reflection on the writer-inner. Most of them aren’t totally mature.
For the writer-inner thinking about moving to New York, I would say go for it. Your parents don’t like New York? Okay. Then THEY shouldn’t go to New York.
And for the record, you shouldn’t think of it in such final terms.
It isn’t as if you can’t move to New York and then move back if things don’t go well. It’s not like you’re going to go to New York, not find anything, end up homeless and die on the streets of NYC. You shouldn’t catastrophize it.
It’s your life.
Also, the writer-inner said that they visited some friends there. Maybe ask them if they know of anything in the way of jobs to apply for or a living situation. Send résumés to cafes, restaurants, Starbucks, I <3 NY t-shirt stands, train stations, or office buildings… even if they're not expressly hiring, the worst they can say is no, and the best they can do is give the writer-inner a job.
It also softens the blow if the parents know the writer-inner has a support group in the friends. Sounds like the writer-inner needs to breathe new air.
She says she will “hang out” with a boy for a month or two, and that he will make it seem like they are “on the cusp of becoming boyfriend/girlfriend.”
What does this mean? To me if you’ve been hanging out for a month and you aren’t already boyfriend/girlfriend, then the dude probably considers you to be just a friend. If he doesn’t break up with you formally, could it be that he doesn’t realize there’s any breaking up to do?
Maybe I don’t understand what “hanging out” means.
Also for the writer-inner looking for friends, I’d suggest trying to get more involved in things.
Hang out at a gym (where endorphins help with depression and anxiety as well as increasing your stamina, energy and making yourself feel better), join a roller derby team, join a book club, get involved in a charity, find a penpal, volunteer, take a cooking class. Even group therapy can be a chance to meet people and open up and get to know others.
You generally get friends by repeated interaction with the same people, and sharing common interests.
It sounds to me like that guy that stopped returning phone calls and generally disappearing is pulling a ‘fade away’.
Garfunkel and Oates explain the phenomenon in their song (aptly named ‘The Fade Away’):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fr8HKRTavM0
Dr. Rosen has the Keur!
FTW!
Aw Elizabeth! I had mastitis when I was 17 (and I have never had children - I was told it is really rare for someone at that age and who wasn’t breast-feeding.) Anyway, it was awful. I hope you feel better soon.
Mastitis is the worst! Feel better soon! Hot showers and advil!
Also, would love a link to this jewelry roll thing.
For the 20-year-old writer-inner looking for friends, I thought I’d bring up a resource Elizabeth and Andy have mentioned in the past but didn’t think of this time: Meetup.com. It’s a non-dating web site for finding other people with the same interests to hang out with. Elizabeth mentioned to look for people with common interests and this is the easiest way to find such people!
I wanted to provide the writer-inner who is 100 pounds overweight with a podcast resource - Half Size Me (http://www.halfsizeme.com/). The lady has lost about 170 pounds and maintained a healthy weight for over two years. She talks about toxic relationships and has great interviews with different people who take different paths in losing weight.
I hope she can find support as she makes changes in her life.
To the writer-inner thinking about moving to New York: the great thing about adulthood is that once you’re financially independent, it really doesn’t matter what your parents think. Believe me, I know how exhausting it is to apply for other jobs when you come home from a workplace that sucks the life out of you, but you just have to do it anyway. It’s the only way you’ll ever get out of that situation. Moving to New York without a job lined up will be fine if you’re willing to do any kind of work. Between temping, food, and retail, you can definitely find something. I’d consider what you want to do long-term, though, because people work really hard here just to pay the rent, and if you’re not working at something you’re passionate about, that can turn into a pretty miserable situation. But mostly, I think you should do it. Be brave. You have nothing to lose.
Psychic Andy’s K-Cup Confidential
I think a podcast where writer-inners write in, tell a little about themselves and Andy psychically picks which coffee flavor would be best for them. I’d listen to that!
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