Stars In The Sky w/Kate Spencer!
08.27.14 | Share: Share on Twitter Share on Facebook
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Totally Mommy Podcast
Episode 34
The gorgeous and smart mom to two girls, KATE SPENCER is back! We discuss our Good/Bad/Funnies (Dance routines! Sharp objects! Bathtub mayhem! Hair dingleberries! A baby sweet tooth!) before giving unqualified advice to listener questions about co-parenting with an uncooperative partner, how to re-invigorate a relationship with a friend who is in mommy-land, what to do about developing your child’s relationship with his cousin when the mom isn’t making it easy, and lastly, how to handle having your mother around your baby when she… well she kinda sucks! Enjoy!
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For bathtub troubles I loved using a bath seat. Here is one on amazon that is like the one I had. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000TBK4RY/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1409157262&sr=8-1&pi=SX200_QL40
This is the bathtub we’ve been using since month 1 and my daughter loves it!
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000XW65SG/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1409174077&sr=8-1
This is the same tub I have and we stopped using the infant sling insert around the time she wanted to be sitting up even though she couldn’t support herself yet. Because there’s a back to the seat it worked great! Plus its cheap and it has cut outs on the bottom that fits in the sink.
I tried taking the sling out when she showed interest in sitting up but she would push her heels against the tub and slide down and I would have to continuously sit her back up. So I put the sling back on and she would lay down for a while(she loved to soak in the warm water for a bit), when it was time to wash up I’d sit her up and put one foot on either side. I think we did that until she was 6 months.. She’s 8 months now and sitting on a towel in the tub. It worked well for us too, great buy:)
We used the inflatable duck bathtub from almost sitting up all the way until he was big enough to be in the bathtub solo. http://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-White-Hot-Inflatable-Duck/dp/B000066665
Loved it!
To the parent with the unresponsive mother, if your baby is being fussing or crying just a bit let the baby cry a little if the baby is in no harm. If you are responding to cues, ask the mother to respond to the cues in a respextful way.
My son never liked baths so we did showers together. I went in and got clean, then turned down the temp of the water and started to clean our son, then my husband would get in and take over. I would dry off and grab a towel and take our son out and get him dried and my husband could finish up his shower. It worked well for us and was the only way to get him clean. I know I just loved the skin to skin contact.
I think the LW with the cousin issue needs to back off. She’s coming on to the SIL and child way too strongly. If you keep trying to get someone to hang out with you and your child and you’re getting push back or nothing from them at all, you need to take the hint and lay off a little.
Also, you can’t really force a relationship between cousins or anyone else for that matter. Many people are close with their cousins, many are not. And both ways are ok. I wasn’t close with my cousins growing up (mostly due to distance), but now as adults we’ve developed an awesome relationship.
So, I guess my advice just boils down to stop tying to hard and putting so much pressure on this. Let relationships develop naturally and give your family members some space to reach out to you for a change.