It’s Happening So Enjoy w/Katya Lidsky!
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Totally Mommy Podcast
Episode 105
Elizabeth dear friend - writer, actress, and friend to all doggies, KATYA LIDSKY is here to cohost! We discuss our good/bad/funnies (Tantrum avoidance! Waiting ’til you’re ready!/ Mom to two guilt! Overwhelming paralyzation!/ Poopy monstah! Honey the dog has passed!) before giving our unqualified advice to listener questions about how to approach a health concern with a parent of a child you provide childcare for, and how to navigate the difficult world of feeling good in your incredible body (that just created a baby!) post partum? Enjoy!
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Hey Elizabeth!
I love listening to your podcasts while at work thank you. I am really worried about the child in daycare that is having home made formula, I became extremely nervous and worried. Seems to me this child is eating so much because this home made formula does not have the correct nutrients its little body needs. He or she is starving for I urge the writer to please call Child Protective Services if something happens to this child they can be responsible as well as the mom. Especially if she sees signs. If you could ask the writer for a update please.I use to work with special needs children.I don’t know if this is a daycare the child is in or how it works where the writer lives, but we are mandated to report any thing that looks suspicious by law. I hope she does the right thing.
Thanks again
I want to add that child care workers and educators in most states have a legal (not just moral or ethical) obligation to report any circumstance where they fear for a child’s well being.
Call services. They will generally ask you to write a statement to follow up and then let the authorities have the difficult conversations.
I want to leave a word of encouragement for the three month postpartum mom! I am in the same place (1st time mom, 3 months postpartum), and was having the same struggle.
Lost a lot of weight during pregnancy because of morning sickness, gained a bunch back when I started taking anti-nausea medicine. Ended up at pre-birth weight right after my son was born. Am down 10 lbs from that, and low and behold when I went to try on my jeans, they didn’t fit. Even after weighing less than before! My body has changed so that I’m a size up, despite the numbers on the scale indicating that I should be able to comfortably fit in them.
All this to say, you should definitely take Elizabeth’s advice. Go get a few outfits that fit so you feel comfortable and normal, even if you’re hoping to lose more weight. I did the same last weekend, knowing I wouldn’t fit into my old jeans for a while (I was overweight before pregnancy, and hope to lose more). But my new jeans and blouses have me feeling more confident and comfortable where I am now (bought them on clearance so I’m not breaking the bank). People at work and church have noticed my change in demeanor too, and have mentioned as such.
Sometimes something as small as a few new clothes can make a big impact.
Good luck, mama! You’re doing great 🙂
Hi!
I felt compelled to comment because I was really concerned about the child who is being fed home made formula. As a child care provider, in most states the letter writer is a mandatory reporter of child abuse and neglect. They should call child protective services immediately. That child certainly sounds like they are suffering from malnutrition and the effects can be devastating on a child so young both physically and mentally. Moreover the child will be less able to fight infection and could suffer organ failure. Please urge the letter writer to call the proper authorities. That poor baby needs to be the top priority not the mom’s feelings in this instance.
Love your podcasts, Elizabeth!
I wanted to second the thoughts that two commenters posted here regarding the child care provider with concerns about the baby who is consuming homemade formula. I work in a child maltreatment clinic and we see a number of babies with failure to thrive, which of course can be quite dangerous. It is the duty of the childcare worker or his/her supervisor to report the suspicion of child maltreatment (whether intentional or not), and it is CPS’s job to investigate those concerns. No need to alert the mother of the concerns. In most states (perhaps all), mandated reporters are allowed to make reports anonymously- I myself do so fairly regularly.
I agree with everyone else, as a mandatory reporter, my first thought is call CPS. Or you could also call ChildHelp and see what they have to say
Elizabeth, it sounds like you used a method from the book “Happiest Toddler on the Block” to help deal with Teddy’s tantrum. I’m currently reading it and it works wonders for dealing with tantrums. It’s gentle, it acknowledges and validates emotions and it works for us. Good luck and thanks for the podcast!
First of all, Katya reminded me so much of Elizabeth’s friend (who’s been on the podcast a few times) Leonora Pitts! Did anyone else get that? The sound of their voices, mannerisms, personality, etc. It was great - loved this episode!
Elizabeth, I totally get the “I need new clothes” thing. Like you, I was pregnant/breast feeding for 3 years - the Marie Kondo book helped me get rid of a TON of clothes about a year after my second baby. And then I discovered (and LOVE) the blog “Unfancy.” http://www.un-fancy.com The creator took a hiatus, but is coming back in February. The blog is all about “capsule wardrobes.” It is fascinating!! But yes, it’s amazing how your clothing style changes after having kids. I will say, though, that you seriously always look amazing and so cute in your pictures - pregnant or not!! 🙂
Just wanted to comment that, for a breastfed baby, at least, eating every two hours is not abnormal. My daughter was always a frequent nurser and was nursing every two hours or less during the day for a long time. (She went longer stretches at night, though.) She did not have any problems gaining weight. I have read that nursing frequency is partly dependent on the mom’s milk storage capacity; if your body can’t store as much milk between feedings, then baby has to nurse more frequently in order to get enough and maintain your supply. This is not a problem as long as baby is allowed to nurse on demand (vs putting them on an arbitrary schedule.)
I know the baby mentioned was not breastfed, but just wanted to comment because you and Katya seemed to think that 3-4 hours between feedings was the only healthy option.