Just Gotta Dump It!
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Totally Mommy Podcast
Episode 126
Elizabeth and Vanessa dive head first into question city on today’s episode, giving their unqualified advice to queries about a nice gift for your son’s step-mom-to be, how to cope with in laws who seem to favor the other grandchildren, what to do with strong feelings of competition with an awesome sister in law, what to do about a childless friend who seems upset about her changing friendships due to motherhood, how to let a relative know that it is not okay to post photos of your children online, how to introduce more veggies into your picky toddler’s diet, what a good come-back is for rude people judging your expanding family, and how to let a well meaning mother in law know that she is over staying her welcome? Enjoy!
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I don’t have children and I don’t know if I ever want to, but regardless this is one of my favourite podcasts, and you bring me joy every Wednesday. Just wanted to say thanks! xo
I love Pregnant Chicken for funny responses to various stupid pregnancy comments.
http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2011/1/15/clever-pregnancy-comebacks-part-one.html
I also just want to share some love. This podcast really makes me have a better day. I really hate my job and Wednesdays, when I get to listen on my way to work, and on my pumping breaks, it really makes my day better. Thanks ladies 🙂
I don’t think the lady with the mother in law who won’t leave needs to make it into a thing or get her husband involved. When you come home, ask her about how the day went and if the kid did anything interesting. Once the small talk is done, stand up and say, “Well I’ll let you go, I know you got other stuff to do, I’ll walk you to the door.” She may call you on it and say she has nothing to do, then just say “I gotta do blah blah blah… I’ll see you later.” She should get the hint.
I love this advice!!
just wanted to say I was laughing so hard today, I was in tears. You ladies are the best
Wonderful episode, as usual! you guys crack me up even (especially?) when you think you’re treading water.
The last question and your two different experiences with house guests had me thinking about ask vs. guess culture (forgive the link bait title)
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/may/08/change-life-asker-guesser
As you, Elizabeth, were explaining how you normally address this type of thing directly, Vanessa came in from the Guess perspective trying to send the message without directly “asking.” If the writer-inner thinks about what culture her MIL is operating under (especially if it’s different from her own), it can help her navigate which type of approach is best to take.
To the writer inner asking about photo sharing…
I thought I’d share our solution. We too do not post any pics on social media and have asked friends and family to do the same and they’ve listened. That said, we have family all over the world that we want to share updated pics of our amazing kids 🙂
We started a shared photo stream in the photos program on our iPhone. Anyone we invite with an iPhone or iPad or probably Mac computer I would imagine can view and comment on the pics we post. Luckily for us almost all of our family are Apple users. It’s a great solution for keeping your photos limited to only those you want. Sure, nothing stops them from saving them, screen shorting them or emailing them along, but that hasn’t been an issue.
Just thought I’d share one solution.
And if you have a mix of Mac and non Mac users, the app Cluster is a great solution. You can create shared albums and invite only who you want. My family uses it for everything, and it is a great way to share photos in a more private environment.
LOVE the podcast! I know you guys often mention linking to articles - where would I find that? I’m interested in the articles you’ve found about social media. We’re about to have our first kid and we need to try some boundaries with the grandparents complete with footnotes/articles! Thanks!